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Unapologetically Anti-Social


If you're an introverted extrovert such as myself, you know how confusing this can be to justify to the outside world. For some strange reason, people can't come to terms with the fact that having alone time is basically the best thing ever invented. One night, you're out on the town slinging shots and .... more shots down your throat and the next you're throwing your phone at the wall in hopes of being left alone forever.

I can't tell you how many times a week I get asked-

"W H A T  do you do all the time?"

"D O  you just sit at home?"

"W H Y  don't you ever come out?"

First off, I do come out! I was out like three years ago when I started dating a lesbian, duh. BUT all jokes aside - I love vodka, and dancing! Hell, I even like talking, sometimes. I just like it in small doses. 

As an introvert, I am very select with my social calendar. If I'm going to go out, I'm going to expect a hangover the next day. In which, I need to prepare for and ensure that I don't work the following 24 hours. After all, work is where I spend the majority of my time. More so, if I go out I'm going to need at least two weeks in-between to recharge.

I'm not a "normal" college student, and that's okay! I really enjoy a sense of solitude in free time.. the only time I'm able to really strengthen my skills. It it doesn't mean that I don't want to do keg stands, I just love being alone! I'm totally cool with it. You should be, too. 


As an extrovert, I prefer events- something I can plan on and look forward to. If I'm going to get all dolled up and burn a hole through my wallet I might as well do it with class... or in the garage of some unknown indie punk band that attracts a crowd only wearing black and smells strictly of beer and American Spirits. Going to "the bars" every week is cool and all, but not really for me. Come over and I'll order Asian take out. Tell me about your goals, strengths, and weaknesses. Let's have a conversation- something that leaves us both feeling rejuvenated. 

So, my advice to anyone who relates to being an introverted extrovert is to just be honest with your social butterfly friends.

Find a medium where you meet up a couple times a month, plan coffee, or even an afternoon pint.. and follow through with it!! Unfortunately for our introverted side, we are well aware of the intensity of our social era. We don't need to feel any more pressured to text someone back or force ourselves to go out more than we already do. We are all doing our best. Diversity rules the world! 


Alexa Ace

PS: YAY FOR BLOGGING! I am so excited to be writing again. I love writing about ways in which we can all relate as strangers, and things I feel very strongly about. I'd definitely consider myself more of a blogger than a journalist. So... Tell me your thoughts! I love hearing feedback.


A massive thank you to everyone again who's interacting with our blog and giving us a chance to grow. It means the world. 

Alexa Ace, Author 

Alexa is the Co-Founder and CEO of Gold Hand Girls. You can read more about who she is and what she loves on our "About Us" page!

Coco Lashar, Graphics 

Coco is the Co-Founder and Creative Director of Gold Hand Girls. You can read more about who she is and what she loves on our "About Us" page! 

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